Tuesday, November 05, 2013

Word of the Week: Control

con·trol  (kn-trl)
tr.v. con·trolledcon·trol·lingcon·trols
1. To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over; direct. See Synonyms at conduct.
2. To adjust to a requirement; regulate: controlled trading on the stock market; controls the flow of water.
3. To hold in restraint; check: struggled to control my temper.
4. To reduce or prevent the spread of: control insects; controlled the fire by dousing it with water.
5.
a. To verify or regulate (a scientific experiment) by conducting a parallel experiment or by comparing with another standard.
b. To verify (an account, for example) by using a duplicate register for comparison.
n.
1. Authority or ability to manage or direct: lost control of the skidding car; the leaders in control of the country.
2.
a. One that controls; a controlling agent, device, or organization.
b. An instrument or set of instruments used to operate, regulate, or guide a machine or vehicle. Often used in the plural.
3. A restraining device, measure, or limit; a curb: a control on prices; price controls.
4.
a. A standard of comparison for checking or verifying the results of an experiment.
b. An individual or group used as a standard of comparison in a control experiment.
5. An intelligence agent who supervises or instructs another agent.
6. A spirit presumed to speak or act through a medium.

[Middle English controllen, from Anglo-Norman contreroller, from Medieval Latin contrrotulreto check by duplicate register, fromcontrrotulusduplicate register : Latin contr-contra- + Latin rotulusroll, diminutive of rotawheel; see ret- in Indo-European roots.]

con·trolla·bili·ty n.
con·trolla·ble adj.
con·trolla·bly adv.
The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

 I think of being in control is a virtue, but also giving up control has its own power.  The ability to give up and let go--submit willingly to another and allow them control of you, is one of the cornerstones of BDSM.

LEARN, children--learn!

Power exchange is what makes the world go 'round.  Think about it, everything in life is a power struggle, whether its political power or the power to survive over another life form or species. Being in control plays a very important part in that--it also implies a structure and a discipline of restraint of others and of oneself.

Most of the people I see and session with are in positions of control and power in their everyday life.  It is overwhelming at times and can feel like you are not even in control of yourself because you are high level of responsibility.  They are alpha males--strong, pushy, aggressive--and that kind of character takes a lot of energy, because you constantly have to assert oneself, so as Beta and other alphas do not sense a weakness...
Thus alpha types that submit to me give up control as a form of release.  I have been told that it is like a vacation to them.  A pause in the everyday pressure of having to be in charge--submitting balances them out.

One of the reasons I love chastity so much is because of the type and scope of control I am given.  To hold someone's key, and be in control of a slave's cock is very powerful.  From the moment they put it on, they cannot be turned on by it, otherwise it will not go on--and it will be painful just to get excited.  The first time you need to use the restroom, you realize you can't stand up in the urinal like all the other men, you have to sit down--it feminizes you.  The lack of control you have over your own body becomes very noticeable--but letting Me have control of it, is the biggest rush--to know I own you--because I own your cock.


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